36-year-old caught in a lie after taking her male coworker to a wrestling match instead of her boyfriend, accuses him of not letting her have friends: "I'm worried something's going on with this guy"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Feb 27, 2025 10:00 PM EST

What shared interests do you have with your partner? My boyfriend and I both love films. He's a film student, so his love and tolerance of slow art house movies is much higher than mine, but even still, I will never turn down an opportunity to watch a Tarkovsky, Jodorowsky, or Bergman film. His love of cinema has opened me up to much more (even though I'd rather just re-watch an 80s kids movie most evenings). I can't imagine how hurt my boyfriend would feel if he found out that I went to see a Chantal Ackerman film without him – or worse, if I bought myself and a male coworker tickets and tried to lie about it later.

In our story today, a man catches his girlfriend in a similar lie. The pair previously bonded over wrestling, and upon mentioning a recent match, she accidentally lets slip that she actually attended the event in-person with her male coworker. Going to see the match without him is bad enough, but there's a bigger red flag at play. Scroll down for all the juicy deets. 

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    AITA not talking my girlfriend because she took her male coworker wrestling event instead

    "I figured you'd be fine watching from home."
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    My girlfriend (36f) and I (39m) have been together for 10 months and we generally have a great relationship. We're quite different but we do have a shared interest which is wrestling and we have been, together, to a live event before (just a local promotion).
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    A few weeks ago AEW came to our city (Cincinnati). I was super excited and mentioned multiple times how much I wanted to go. My girlfriend never really said much about it, so I assumed we'd just watch it on TV like we usually do.
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    Well, turns out she did buy tickets-two of them. But instead of inviting me, she took her male coworker. I only found out because she casually mentioned it a few days later and kinda stopped halfway through cos she realised she messed up. I was confused and after a half hearted denial she told me she had gotten tickets and gone with her coworker.
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    I was ped. I asked her why she didn't take me, and she just shrugged and said, "Well, he's a huge fan too, and I figured you'd be fine watching from home." When I told her it hurt that she didn't even
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    consider inviting me, she said I was overreacting and that she's allowed to have friends. I asked why she'd hid it from me (she said she was going to see her dad) and her reasoning was that she knew I'd be annoyed.
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  • The biggest red flag here is the fact that she tried to lie about it and cover it up. I wonder if she calls him “work husband.”

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    I told her I needed some space and have barely spoken to her since. She thinks I'm being childish and that it's not a big deal. But to me, it is a big deal and I feel like she deliberately excluded me from something we both love and chose another guy
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    instead. I'm also worried there's something going on with this guy because why the h I would she keep it from me? I don't drink and this guy does so maybe she finds me boring, she denied that though.
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    AITA for not talking to her? I'm worried that she'll leave cos I really love her but if there is something going on then I guess it's probably for the best. I'm so angry and hurt and I just can't fathom why she'd lie.
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    NTA. natteringly So she bought tickets for an event she knew you'd love; took SOME OTHER GUY to it, and then LIED ABOUT WHAT SHE WAS DOING so you wouldn't know.
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    And when she's caught out, she sneers that you're being "childish" and "it's not a big deal". How is this even a question? Dump her.
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    oxenvibe I always find it interesting when people lie or hide something, and then when they're confronted, say it's "not a big deal" or that you're overreacting. Like, okay, if that's your logic, it shouldn't be something worth lying over or hiding right? It obviously IS a big deal.
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    Alternative-Wish-423 100% Gaslighting
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    EmpireofAzad If she bought two tickets, she could have bought three. She didn't want OP there.
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    WhatIsYourPronoun NTA. She's not your girlfriend. She's not even your friend.
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    Infamous_Roll_2353 NTA you should break up
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    Lower-Cancel 1961 Drop her! It's a shared interest, she LIED to you and didn't even ASK you, OP!!
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  • She tried to gaslight him into thinking he was a jealous man who doesn't let her have friends. The truth is that she thinks he's not allowed to have boundaries. 

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    Infinite_Bed8560 You know the way it's better to have a job still and be looking for a new one? A lot of people do this with partners. As soon as that better deal is finalised with new dude she is off. She brought him on a date ffs.
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    Apprehensive-Fig3223 I call it the monkey bar phenomenon, when people won't let go of a relationship until they have another one in their grips
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    yep3387 Dude... Your girl went on a date with another guy and your worried about if your the a h le. Buddy do yourself a favor and move on.
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    Full-Construction932 NTA but the silent treatment is not doing you any favours. I would just cut your losses here. She doesn't seem as invested in this relationship either
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    windywillow584 NTA, she went on a date with another guy to an event she KNEW you'd enjoy and didn't even think to ask you, if it wasn't a date why couldn't you have gone too??
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    kaleighbear125 This right here. If the other guy was just a friend also interested in the event, it would have been SO SIMPLE to buy 3 TICKETS. The fact that he was invited AND YOU WERE NOT ONLY NOT INVITED, BUT LIED TO... that's telling.
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    panachi19 NTA. You're the only monogamous one in this relationship. Accept that or break up.
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